We’ve all heard the expression…”good things come to those who wait”. But the question is, while you’re waiting…do you really know what you’re waiting for? Relationships and dating only work if you really have a plan of some kind. It doesn’t have to be concrete, but it does have to exist. You have to decide what kind of person you are waiting for and what kind of situation. The point is, whatever it is that you are looking for out of relationship or any other kind of situation with your partner needs to be what you stick with. Refuse to settle.
Settling is often what we decide to do when some of our needs or wants or met. But the thing is that there is always a catch in those kinds of situations. We may decide that even though we REALLY want to be in a relationship that we can settle to just hook up with someone. But if you are a person that catches feelings easily or finds it difficult to separate hooking up from being with a person in a relationship, then you shouldn’t resort to hooking up. The opposite is also true…If you enjoy playing the field (man that’s an old term) or just being able to not have to worry about being tied down then a relationship is probably not the right look for you. Go with what you need to succeed with your partner.
Now you may be thinking…Stephen, I don’t feel like that right person and situation will ever come…that’s a valid concern and the response is that honestly the PERFECT situation may never come around. BUT a workable and reasonable situation is a definite possibility and will come around. We always want things on our time, but truthfully, that just isn’t how it goes. Show some patience and be willing to say “no” when the person or situation doesn’t seem right. In the end, the right person and situation will come along and you’ll find yourself happy with the right person, at the right time and right place. It won’t be perfect, because the world never really is. But it will certainly be something that you’ll hear twill be happy and content with. Just keep waiting
-Stephen Wallace, Men’s SWAG
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