Trust…It’s one of the most important parts of any dating relationship. Do you trust your partner not to cheat on you? (assuming you’re monogamous) Do you trust that person will be honest with you about how they’re feeling? Let’s be real fellas (and ladies, for those of you reading this too) we don’t trust enough. And in all likelihood, we aren’t usually all that worthy of being trusted. But with that said, unless we can trust the person that we choose to date or be with, or just hook up with then ultimately things can end up ugly.
I imagine that most of you reading this right now are probably thinking to yourselves “well if trust is so important, how do i make that work?”. That’s a great question, I’m glad you asked. Trust begins and ends with your gut feelings. If you are questioning whether or not you can trust a person from the beginning, then in all likelihood, there is no reason that you should be with them in the first place. Trust can sometimes, be developed, but there is no reason to force yourself to fight a strong gut feeling that you have about someone. At the same time, you do want to give people a chance to explain their habits or talk out any issues you may have that are keeping you from being able to trust them. Talking is healthy and so is honesty.
Speaking of honesty, the best way to prove that your trustworthy is to tell the truth. Guys, let me repeat that…TELL THE TRUTH! Why deceive a girl? Don’t just tell them what they want to hear. Tell them the truth. If you just want to date them casually and also see other people, then say that. If you want to be with them and only them, just tell them that. But back up those words with actions. It’s not about what you say to a woman, it’s about what you do following the statement(s) that you made. If you contradict your words in your actions then you will not earn the trust of the woman. Don’t give a person a reason not to trust your intentions or feel that they can not trust you to make smart choices. If you want to be with a woman exclusively, don’t be out in the street chasing after other women…that is NOT A GOOD LOOK. Do those thing s that will inspire trust.
So…Here’s a MEN’s SWAG challenge…Try and be honest with the women around you. you may be pleasantly surprised in how they react to a man that is capable of telling the truth. There will be a lot more respect and more trust in your relationships.
-Stephen Wallace, Men’s SWAG