Communicating. Talking is single handily the most useful tool in a person’s arsenal. From giving directions, to telling others how you feel, talking and communicating is a necessity. Now there are those people that certain things cannot be said to. We all do it, and we all have them. We as people can only tell certain things to certain people; people we trust. Family is the first and probably the most likely choice of people a person may run to talk about certain things with, but what about those certain items that a person may not be comfortable talking to with family?
For those situations, my next rule should be considered; Always have that person that is outside your family, that you can talk to about anything. These people will be some of the most important people in your life. And guys, let’s not always have a woman; let me rephrase, a girl, as these people all the time. But in some rare cases a woman can be there for you and there can be no attraction between you two, but you may not want to risk it.
When you have someone who isn’t going to automatically agree, or attempt to make you feel better by saying “what you want to hear,” it makes you feel 1000 times better. Why you may ask? Because these people will tell you the truth no matter if it hurts, makes things better, or makes things worse. Ultimately, they are there to help you and make it be known that they will truthfully tell you their perspective. Also, these people should be people that one can rely on at random, and needful times. Times when you really need to talk and just want someone to pick up the phone and listen, someone who will drive to meet up just to make sure everything is cool. That is the role this person should play for rule #9.
So take some time out of your day and try to think if you have any of these people in your life. If not, try to see who can become that person. Talk, communicate, listen and open your mind to the world. It will make you a better person and happier in the end.